Gary has been working hard on our family photos lately. He has been adding different effects, cleaning up the backgrounds, optimising the area used and the quality (where he can). This has taken many hours of work and he has started an online photo album called Floralscape where he shows a small portion of what he has done.
The following photo of Barry has been given a cartoon effect and two people where removed. It came up so well that we had it enlarged and framed. It looks great in the wooden frame and everyone who sees it, comments on how good it looks and how different it is.
And whilst the quality of the next photo isn’t the greatest, I love the photo itself because this is exactly how I saw Barry every day. Happy! Gary took this still from a documentary Barry made for a school project. The video was entitled “Kuni” and if you want to see a series of stills from the video just follow the link (I love looking at these as I can almost see him moving about and laughing – much like the photos in the Harry Potter movies).
Crumbling Walls 
He was a fine-looking lad, Karen.
We’re thinking about you.
I just wanted to let you know that I was looking for something tonight, in my own battle for understanding, still existing five years later, and I found your blog and found more than I ever imagined. My friend killed himself years ago and I was not close with his family so much of what I’ve wanted to know I never could find out. I found so much here. Thank you. Thank you so much.
Thank you, Helen.
Dylan, thank you for taking the time to comment. When someone tells me that I’ve helped them, it spurs me to keep going. Understanding is a huge thing. I’m still finding my way, but I’m glad that you’ve made it through the darkness and I’m sorry that you lost your friend.
Karen, I kept checking back as the photos would not load on my screen. Finally they have. Barry was a very handsome young man. I love the cartoon picture. What an original idea.
Thank you, Rosepetal. Barry was handsome in many ways other than looks too. I have always been proud of him.
I had similar problems with the photos and ended up uploading them to Flickr to solve the problem. Gary was disappointed, but he is busy moving his albums to Flickr too. 🙂
hey barry, hope you looking afta urself, man we miss you soooo much it doesnt feel right without you around bro…. just listen to kingston town now bro everytime i hear it, it makes me think of u brother….one day man we will all be back together just like old days at school… memba the first day of school.. you didnt no any1 and i came up2 u and introduced my self to you… thats when our friendship took off. some of the funniest times i had at school were with you…. take care bro miss u everyday champ….
Thank you for stopping by, Dave and Josh. There are so many songs that remind me of Barry. Sometimes I can listen to them and smile, other times they make me cry. I hope you are both doing OK.
im so sorry to hear of your loss, i went to school with barry but moved away and hav only jus heard of your loss im so sorry he was such a beautiful person always put a smile on everyones face… it really is a terrible loss… sorry again.. you hav done a fantastic job on the site stick in there hopefully in time it will get easier…
Dear Karen,
I read your hear warming story about your son Barry at a group meeting of parents who have lost children and wanted to say thank you for sharing. Having just tragically lost my beautiful 20 year old granddaughter Brittany, your words were a great comfort to me. As you have, I hope I will be able to carry on by remembering all the wonderful times we shared together. This tragedy is especially painful for my daughter since Brittany is her only child. As a single mom, Brittany was my daughter’s whole life and her best friend. I will try to stay strong and comfort each other until the day comes that I will meet up with Brittany once again.
Warmest regards,
Stephen
Hi Karen it’s Stephanie.
I have to admit i don’t visit the site often it’s hard to look at his photos without crying but they make me smile at the same time. I’ve been going through a really hard time lately my fiance left me and i lost our baby, when it first happened i had those bad thoughts going through my head and one of the main things keeping me going is visiting Barry and just talking to him, might seem silly to some people but i visit often take flowers and just talk. I miss him every day.
You have done a great job with this site it is somewhere we can all go to remember what a amazing person my cousin really was and always will be to me.
Steph.
I’m sorry, there are comments here that I neglected to respond to.
Thank you, Carissa, for stopping by and letting me know that you knew Barry. It means a lot to me.
Stephen, my heart goes out to you and your daughter. I hope you find moments in the day where you feel at ease. It will get easier but the loss will always stay strong in your heart. Take care.
Hi Steph,
I’m so sorry that you are going through a hard time at the moment. I truly hope that your family is supporting you, but I’m glad that Barry is helping you is some way. I don’t think it’s silly that you go to him and talk. I do the same thing, and not always at the cemetery.
I’m not sure why I’m crying right now. Perhaps it’s because I’m grateful that you visit my son, because by doing so his memory lives on and I want to hug you for helping me achieve that.
As dark as things may seem right now, you will step into the light again in the future. You will find happiness too if you give yourself a chance. Don’t let these bad experiences leave a lasting affect.
Take care of yourself and thank you.
Karen
I never knew there was a page for Barry
I went to school with Barry & everyone loved him
I still miss him, I was looking him up on facebook and was hoping there was a page for him there, I have been looking in the wrong spot….
Ive been wanting to see photos of him as I only have a few
I cant believe it has nearly been 4 years
every time I listen to Kingston town I cry because it reminds me of Barry, Its getting easier now though, I can listen to it with the girls and we can smile because it holds such great memories of barry
His laugh, his smile, his stupid faces he used to pull 🙂
just everything about Barry!!! He is wonderfull
I love him very much and im glad to have met a guy like barry 🙂
Thank you for leaving your thoughts and memories, Laurinda. It means a lot to me.
Just wanted to let you know that I have set up a page in memory of Barry on Facebook. It’s something I’ve been wanting to do for a while now and decided to go ahead with it after reading your comment.
The page can be found at:
In Memory of Barry Andrew Henderson
This was my first mother’s day without my precious son. We lost him on July 12, 2009 as a passenger in a very tragic and senseless car crash. He would have been 23 in November and would have graduated from Texas State University in December. Like your Barry, Kevin was loved by all that knew him.
My pain comes in waves now, but when it hits hard, it literally takes my breath away and there’s a pain in my heart like none other.
I can’t say that I identify with suicide, but I do identify with the loss of a child. Unfortunately, we are part of a club not of our choosing.
I pray that God continues to give you comfort and peace through this endless journey of grief.