Suicide is Not Chosen

Suicide is not chosen…It happens when pain exceeds resources for coping with pain.


5 thoughts on “Suicide is Not Chosen

  1. hey, i just wanted to say hi,
    how moving and how touching your words are here.
    it is really amazing to be hearing from ‘the other side of the coin’ – a lot of young people and the media are locked into the causes and the experience of depression, but it is also vitally important to recognise its affects and the whole picture around the depressed person…
    does this make any sense..?

    i guess what i want to say, is that it makes my journey through a little easier. Depression creates a form of chemical isolation inside our own heads?? It’s really good to reminded that this perception isn’t true.

    lots and lots of love,

  2. Yes, Ian, it makes sense. I understand what you’re saying and I wish you a safe journey. I hope the trip to a better life isn’t too long. I hope you have people surrounding you to help you get there too.

    Thank you for visiting my website.

  3. Hi Karen,
    I’ve just joined the WP community and am reading through some of your posts. This one confused me because of a post I read before it, which came later chronologically, I think in November.

    Here it is:

    “I say that Barry chose to die by suicide, and that was his decision to make. Although I believe he made the wrong choice, I respect his wishes and will never condemn him for what he did.”

    You wrote both of these statements didn’t you? They seem to be at odds. Have you had a change of heart or is there a further distinction not expressed which would the apparent inconsistency.
    Be well,

  4. No, I didn’t write this one. I saw it somewhere and it stuck in my head. In fact, I think I’ve seen it on many websites.

    I do say Barry made a decision and I’ll protect that decision to the very end, just like I would protect him if allowed. However, the statement above is the truer of the two.

    It’s hard to get my head around, but when someone is so confused and in so much emotional turmoil, how can they really make a choice. They can’t think straight. In one hand, they see nothing but pain and hurt. In the other, they see an end to that pain and hurt. To the person suffering, there is no choice. Yet to the onlooker, the choice was there…they could chose to live or they could chose to die.

    What the community has to do, is provide the resources so that the person can see more options…earlier. If I had known what Barry was going through, I could have offered him more options. But I didn’t know.

    I often wonder if the high school Barry attended addressed the grief of the other students. Did they provide resources for Barry’s friends? Did they let those teenagers know where they can get help? Will they do something to raise awareness in future years?

    Does that make sense?

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